If I had a dollar for every time I've been told, "You'll think about abortion differently when you're pregnant," I'd probably be able to buy a new TV or something cool like that. Unfortunately, I don't get paid to listen to people complain at me for how I don't believe the same thing as they do, so I'll just have to make do with the TV I've got.
Hubby and I found out that we're pregnant early this year. We're pretty excited. We're only about 7 weeks along at the moment, but if we can just make it to 12 weeks we should be ok because that's when the chance for a miscarriage drops drastically.
We have had a few scares; this last weekend we had to go to hospital twice because I had some pretty gnarly bleeding and some cramping going on. The doctors were concerned that we might have an ectopic pregnancy -- meaning, when a fertilized egg implants itself outside of the womb (typically in one of the fallopian tubes). An ectopic pregnancy also would have meant that we would have had to abort the pregnancy, as ectopic pregnancies are typically not viable and fatal for the mother if not treated. By abortion. You know. Because it's a medical procedure.
Thankfully, we are not having an ectopic pregnancy, and we were able to see it on the ultrasound. It even had a heartbeat, 111bpm. How neat! It's growing like crazy at the moment, about the size of a blueberry.
Recently had a discussion with a conservative who basically told me that, even if I had had an ectopic pregnancy, I should've let it continue because "that's the choice you made." Even though it would have killed me. Because "that's the choice you made." And this was a relative of mine. Then they backtracked and said they didn't wish any harm on me, but I just had to take a step back and say, seriously?
I'm gonna come across as a cranky pregnant woman now, because I am, but holy fucking shit. What the fuck is the problem with these people? Has it really gotten to the point where we're openly saying, well if you don't die for the non viable pregnancy you didn't choose to have, you're a horrible human being?
I get that some people don't want to have abortions. I am one of them! Who would fucking want to have an abortion? I would like to avoid it at all costs, and I don't think I'm very alone in that opinion. But the thing is, they don't understand -- they don't understand that education is the thing that prevents unwanted pregnancies. They don't understand that access to birth control prevents unwanted pregnancies. They don't understand that they have no right to make someone's medical decisions for them.
It's disgusting. It's disgusting human behavior, and I abhor it. It's like they don't even view us as people. Or if they do, they seem to view us as lower on the rung than them. Even the women who hold this opinion. If you get an abortion, you must be a whore, you must be irresponsible. That sort of shit.
I don't know about anyone else, but I'm awful fucking tired of it. To quote John Coffey from King's The Green Mile, "Mostly I'm tired of people being ugly to each other. I'm tired of all the pain I feel and hear in the world everyday. There's too much of it. It's like pieces of glass in my head all the time. Can you understand?"
But we can't tire, we can't stop, we've got to keep on our toes, especially because we have a complete fucking moron in the White House who has absolutely no experience in empathy. Guys, gals, everyone in between - this man, and the way of thinking he espouses, is dangerous. Do not rest, do not give an inch. I hate to sound corny, but resist. Do it.