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Stamp: It might not be physical... by 8manderz8 Stamp: It might not be physical... by 8manderz8
I'm going to be very strangely open with you all here.

It took me a long while for me to come to terms with the idea of emotional abuse. After enduring it for more than a decade from a family member, I learned to keep it tucked away in the back of my mind so I didn't have to even think about it. Then I was diagnosed with social anxiety, and everything began to click.

The sorts of people who I experienced the worst of my physical anxiety symptoms around were the biggest clue. Male authority figures mostly. Gee. Who would have guessed.

It's hard having an alcohol-abuser in your family. Mine loved putting me (and the rest of my family) down. We were stupid. We were crazy. We were idiots. We were lazy. We didn't appreciate the bacon-bringer enough. We were forced to endure several-hours-long conversations well past midnight, or else we'd be kicked out of the house. We were commanded to sit and stand like animals repeatedly, to show who was the boss, the head of the household, or else we'd be kicked out. I was forced to play designated driver or else I'd be kicked out. I was threatened with being kicked out as a 15, 16, 17-year old teenager on a weekly basis. Some weeks he even did it. I was terrified whenever each weekend would arrive. Holes were punched in walls, doors were rammed open, all to intimidate and control.

And still now I am abused, even though I am thousands of miles away. He has no one left to pick on at home, and so he picks fights with me through Facebook and emails, because he can. Only now it's not demands for respect based on income alone, or threats of being kicked out. Now I'm personally to blame for his financial difficulties. I'm personally to blame for Obama's re-election. I'm a liberal, one of those awful progressives who voted for Hussein Obama. I'm a Communist, who thinks that I'm entitled to the dollar in his pocket. I'm the target for everything he thinks is wrong with the country. I'm the cause. Me.

Well. Not anymore, since I've finally been able to cut ties with him. I still feel awful about doing it. Will he drink himself to death? Will he pass out with a lit cigarette in his hand? Will he shoot himself, like his father did? Will I be blamed if something happens to him? I still haven't felt anything but anxiety over this. I guess I'll have to give it time.

Anyway. The point of this stamp is, just because emotional abuse doesn't leave physical scars, don't think that it's not abuse. Because it is. And it can affect you. A lot.

From Reach Out - Emotional abuse is just one form of abuse that people can experience in a relationship. Though emotional abuse doesn't leave physical scars, it can have a huge impact on your confidence and self-esteem. There are a couple of different types of emotional abuse and it might not be noticeable at first. However, if you are being emotionally abused there are a number of things you can do to get support:

Types of Emotional Abuse

:bulletblue:Verbal: Yelling, insulting, or swearing at someone
:bulletblue:Rejection: Pretending not to notice someone's presence, conversation or value
:bulletblue:Put downs: name-calling, public embarrassment, calling someone stupid, blaming them for everything
:bulletblue:Being afraid: causing someone to feel afraid, intimidated or threatened
:bulletblue:Isolation: limiting freedom of movement, stopping someone from contacting other people (like friends or family)
:bulletblue:Money: controlling someone's money, withholding money, preventing someone from working, stealing or taking money
:bulletblue:Bullying: purposely and repeatedly saying or doing hurtful things to someone

The impact of emotional abuse

Though physical violence is often seen as being more serious than emotional abuse, this is not the case. The scars of emotional abuse are real and long lasting. Emotional abuse can leave a person feeling depressed, anxious and even suicidal, as well as having a negative impact on self-esteem and confidence.

If this sounds like you

If you are experiencing emotional abuse it is really important that you seek help. Emotional abuse is a really damaging form of abuse even if it doesn't leave physical scars.

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iClubBabySeals Featured By Owner Apr 17, 2016
Sticks and stones may break your bones, but words leave psychological wounds that never heal.
ichijyushi Featured By Owner Feb 28, 2016
Thank you.
unstablestopsign Featured By Owner Jan 11, 2016  Hobbyist Digital Artist

i disnt even realize I was being abused therr

like i shit you not i was called a misery to this family by my father

and they won't care for my depression and adhd  needs. 

"oh your sad again? go to school!"
"do your work it's not that hard!"
MarioSonicPeace Featured By Owner Jan 9, 2016
This is SO true. 
CuminPizza Featured By Owner Oct 6, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I was emotionally abused by my parents. It wasn't alcohol though, religion was that thing. Mostly my dad.

He would go on random rampages when work was tough, saying the most random and hurtful shit. Told me I was going to hell for visiting my partner before "murrage", but I frequently saw pornography still open on the computer (as well as dating sites). He told me that my cutting (it was/is a serious addiction) was to stay inside the family. My mom would more or less just scream at us and told me that I didn't matter and would make it in life. I lived in the bible belt if that clears anything up.
wwwarea Featured By Owner Aug 6, 2015
I am against mocking people in public and all (Unless maybe it's self-defense, may depend). Just like how some people online did to me, but for some of the examples, isn't that what lot's of people do?
According to examples, that means nearly everyone is probably an emotion abuser.

Sometimes when I fight with someone who is being rude, I may come up with swearing, calling them stupid, etc. Though at least maybe when people are causing trouble with me.
ShyGigyas Featured By Owner Aug 4, 2015  Student General Artist
I've endured a lot of emotional abuse from people I knew in sixth grade. It hurts so much. Thankfully I'm now a sophomore in high school, getting help and staying away from them. Besides I am in a different school from them.
Fearlesswolf22 Featured By Owner Jun 22, 2015   Artist
I usually don't comment often but I have been through this my whole life...everyone just thinks I want attention and that I'm fine but I'm not, the only attention I would like is feeling like I'm worth something to someone. I usually never am important most people don't even comment if I even try talking and I haven't really been able to talk since I was 12. 
This is extremely important and ignored too often. Excellent stamp.
ComannderrX Featured By Owner May 2, 2015
Luchii-Chan Featured By Owner Edited Apr 1, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
My dad has done the same to me for the past... 9 or 10 years now. And people expect me to be normal...if you could equate emotional abuse to physical abuse, I'd have scars all over..
frontierNexus Featured By Owner Jan 14, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
Silly human emotions.
ColossalDick Featured By Owner Apr 4, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
True. that.
MyonNyanMukyuu Featured By Owner Jan 8, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I received the first, third, and last ones every day for a whole academic year. I do NOT like talking about it.

My dad also is prone to verbal whenever he gets angry. Mom is the usual target, though. The only thing keeping me from bashing him upside the head with a chair when he does it is my ethical principles.
Breeze77 Featured By Owner Dec 30, 2014  Student
ToastyCosplay Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2014  Professional General Artist
I'm a victim :crying: rvmp Pikachu Crying Plz Hatsune Miku-07 (Cries) Cry emote Pikachu Crying Plz Cry run 1 

Someone hug me Pikachu crying plz 
I--talian-Sushi Featured By Owner Jun 27, 2015
//kicks down your door

I will hug the living sh!t outta you until you feel better--

And even then, I'll still keep hugging you
Breeze77 Featured By Owner Dec 29, 2014  Student
There there. I know that it hurts.
ToastyCosplay Featured By Owner Edited Dec 29, 2014  Professional General Artist
I am a dummy! HugI'm ok now
Breeze77 Featured By Owner Dec 29, 2014  Student
That's great! You can always talk to someone when something's wrong.
By the way, thanks for the watch. :)
ToastyCosplay Featured By Owner Dec 29, 2014  Professional General Artist
Cloud-Seroku Featured By Owner Nov 14, 2014  Hobbyist Artist
My father did the damn same, -_-

Now he is trying to say he sorry. fucking bitch
Pocky--Minccino Featured By Owner Oct 4, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I'm being emotionally abused by my father. -.-
Morlord Featured By Owner Sep 7, 2014
I know exactly your feelings :( 18 jears of bullying and lonliness have i survived...
Breeze77 Featured By Owner Feb 13, 2015  Student
AbyssalSerpent Featured By Owner Jun 3, 2014   Writer
Sorry to hear about how you've been treated. I think you've made a step in the right direction by cutting him off so that he can no longer cause any further harm to you.
For someone to cause emotional damage to another either out of pleasure, frustration or any other reason is one of the lowest things they can do. I've been bullied on and teased on for many years, and I had to put up with it for a long time. Sometimes I even heard some friends and even family members say hurtful things about me behind my back. All of that led for me to become anxious and paranoid, but unlike the scumbag-bullies who take their frustrations out on people, I don't do that to others. I know how hideous it feels to be emotionally abused, so I don't do that to anyone at all, no matter how angry they may get me.
Amphibnia Featured By Owner May 25, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
It really is, and even the smallest things can hurt a lot.
Jowesline Featured By Owner Dec 13, 2013  Student General Artist
My mom very often make fun of me and she uses the excuse that she was only "joking", she often scolding me and it really makes me feel bad, besides, I have an uncle who has schizophrenia and he disturb me very much, I do not really know what else to do.
Noviazi Featured By Owner Jan 13, 2015  Student General Artist
My dad and his girlfriend does that to me too. They tease me and think that it's funny even when they know my self esteem is fragile...
Jowesline Featured By Owner Feb 28, 2015  Student General Artist
I know how you feel. :( Sometimes, I wish that there could have a solution for every problem. :/ 
CaptainNinjaPants Featured By Owner Nov 21, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist

Yep...story of my life sometimes with my mom. Everything is my fault and I'm the selfish bitch whose fat, lazy, unmotivated, and someone my cousins don't like to hang out with.

I've had physical abuse and endured it all. I kept everything bottled up and can't trust others with my pain because they don't fully understand. "Just think positive thoughts" DOES NOT and hasn't ever worked. I explode when I can't take anymore and end up screaming my head off at my mom. I have strong urges to harm her back physically but still have the decency to hold myself in check and not try and harm another life.

I don't ever think I can fully respect my mom because she may say she loves me but her screaming, putting me down, comparing me to her or my cousins speaks volumes to how hypocritical she can be.

Not just grandma is just as bad because she tried to turn me against my grandpa because she thought he was lazy or was out clubbing with other women when he only wanted time away from her because at times she can be nuts.<br / />

Zosalot Featured By Owner Nov 20, 2013  Student General Artist
I will fav this and then unfav it just so I can fav it again. Emotional abuse is present in every form of abuse really. Awesome stamp!
Idontknowwhoyouknow Featured By Owner Nov 6, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Can I punch the person who said that emotional abuse is not abuse? Those people are too stupid.

Btw, the person writing here has experienced everything there except the money one. I believe I'm now a serious dandere case. 
Fun-dragoness Featured By Owner Oct 29, 2013
I don't get emotionally abused too much. If I do it's usually by a kid. I think... but I am sure they are both horrible. It makes me want to punch the abusers. Hard.
stansa Featured By Owner Oct 13, 2013  Student Photographer
My dad is an emotional abuser and has emotionally abusd my mom to the poin where she thought no one could lover her but him and that she was stupied and toled her worse things every day and stayed with him untill he started to abuse my brother and me then she left and it took her a long time to get over the fact that she is worth more than she was told. But the courts only see physical abuse into account so we still have to see him!! People need to see emotional abuse hurts just as much a physical abuse it is just ignored more.
Frodofox Featured By Owner Oct 7, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
I know a best friend who has an emotionally abusive family and it pisses me off. She's actually coming here for a week after a rather nasty incident. They pretty much do everything on that list. 
White-Doge Featured By Owner Sep 25, 2013  Professional General Artist
I feel as if i'll never heal....
8manderz8 Featured By Owner Sep 25, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I know the feeling. :(
May-I-Tutchem Featured By Owner Sep 15, 2013  Student General Artist
yep, both are horrible.

- a person who has been physically and emotionally abused
CertifiedJesusFreak Featured By Owner Sep 14, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Year and a half. By my ex. Still nursing scars.
Northern-Leuchte Featured By Owner Aug 25, 2013  Hobbyist Artist
I go through all the blue bullets atleast once every three days...
Northern-Leuchte Featured By Owner Aug 25, 2013  Hobbyist Artist
Every day. Makes me hate talking to my family at this point.
May-I-Tutchem Featured By Owner Aug 10, 2013  Student General Artist
Though physical violence is often seen as being more serious than emotional abuse, this is not the case.

ive been both physically and emotionally abused.

you're right, emotional abuse is actually worse.  
Komatsuzaki-Xingqi Featured By Owner Jul 28, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I'm sorry that person does that to you. :( I hope you continue to recover. 
Sauti-Alamisi Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
It's sad that my stepfather emotionally abuses me almost everyday. :slow:
BigDaddy820 Featured By Owner Jul 24, 2013  Professional Photographer
I agree
scourge1212 Featured By Owner Jul 10, 2013
its true I have to go through that every day at school
VampireQueenEffeffia Featured By Owner Jun 22, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
That is terrible . . . I am so sorry . . .
B0WT1ES Featured By Owner Jun 10, 2013
I agree so, so much. I can't stand it when someone says "[Type of abuse/horrible experience here] is worse than [Your abuse/horrible experience here]! You're lucky you don't have it that bad! You could have it much worse!" It's kinda like the "Which one is worse: Rape or murder?" argument. It doesn't matter which one is worse, they are both horrible crimes and the rapist/killer needs to be severely punished.
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